A Gentleman's Guide

Shortly after my ex decided to blow up our family, I wrote a guide for my sons.  The guide is pamphlet style and covers topics from picking the right suit to silverware settings to how to be a Best Man.  I may publish sections of it, for guys who were raised by single moms and may not have the benefit of having a father, like mine (second to none).  Much of it is still useful, but one part seems so bizarre now that I can’t believe my worldview shifted so dramatically in such a short span.

I had a section titled, “Ladies.”  In it, I provided the time honored etiquette for treating a young lady.  At first, I laughed at the absurdity I intended to teach my boys.  Then, I realized more sadness because I believe it is the way women should be treated.  However, the modern woman bears little resemblance to the women of fifty years ago.  Society has masculinized them, told them to pursue manly goals, shamed them from pursuing feminine interests, and high-fived whorish behavior.

As I list the guide for treating Ladies, the men who have taken the Red Pill will have a far different reaction to the list than the men who haven’t (like me, only months ago).  Here was the list:

Always open doors

Offer your seat to women

Always carry a woman’s package

Put her coat on

Help her with her seat

Stand at attention when a lady enters or leaves a room

Give her your arm (escort)

Ask her if she needs anything

And on and on…

Keep in mind, I don’t mind doing these things and this is how I was raised.  However, the modern woman will not view these gestures in the same manner as women of decades ago because she has been taught to not respect men.  Men are buffoons, the butt of jokes, the predators, and as useful as a bicycle for fish.

Also, understand that there are differences between the dating world and Long Term Relationships (LTR).  LTR is a far deeper commitment between a man and a woman.  For those in a LTR, I point you to helpful resources, such as Married Man Sex Life.  I am hopeful that I will have a LTR in the future, but I’m going in with my eyes wide open next time.